Q:Please answer this.About a year I've felt numb and sad. I worry that might be depression. I did some online tests and they all say severe depression. But the prob is I DO smile and laugh.What if my doc tells me I am just a liar,an attention seeker?-L
I’m sorry to hear you’re been going through that.
Depression is not a 27/4 malaise. I I have frequently had severe depressions where I still smiled and laughed occasionally.
That said, online tests aren’t always reliable, especially since they’re entirely based on self-report. I suggest going to a therapist if your feelings are debilitating; psychological professionals are trained to take their patients seriously.
Q:Please respond to my question as soon as you can -L ♥
We have a huge backlog of asks since we get several a day, but we do answer all asks and yours will be answered soon. Thanks for your patience!
Q:Not sure how to start this because, i feel embarassed but ive been feeling very alone. My friends have already graduated(im done this december). So i am making the attempt to branch out and make more though that hasnt turned out well. in the beginning things start off good but then tapper off. This leaves me questioning myself like ‘did i say something that caused this’ or i think that maybe im not good enough/interesting enough for them. It leaves me with a sick feeling and disappointed cont..
hi, I’m the previous anon and just continuing.. Could this be the start of depression or something? Also when making the attempt to talk to people on here I get so nervous and psych myself out that I don’t do it at all. Then on the chance I do I get the same questioning feeling like mentioned above. :(
Hi anon! Thanks for reaching out to us.
What you’re describing doesn’t sound like depression or a mental illness at all; it sounds like just about everyone I know! Social interactions can be hard, especially when your established friendships have faded, but don’t give up! It’s all trial and error.
Q:I don't feel like being here anymore... I have a girlfriend but I bother her too much with my mental illness and I feel like I'm alone all the time, I just have nowhere to turn, nobody replies back.. I just don't want to feel like this anymore, I don't want to keep living like this.
I know the feeling. You might be depressed… have you thought of going to a psychiatrist or psychologyst?
Here you have some links that you might find useful:
- This is a link to a great workbook you can do to teach you about coping with depression.
- This post explains the marble theory of depression.
- This is a post that explains the symptoms and treatment of depression.
- This post lists some negative thinking styles that add to depression.
Please, take care of yourself <3
Q:I don't really know who to talk to or if i'm okay or not, i'm sure I am, just I've went through a really bad break up, it was a very bad relationship and it's been a awhile and my mind is empty and I can feel any emotion, is that bad?
Thank you for reaching out to us! I wouldn’t say it’s “good” or “bad”—I find that attaching value judgments to our state of mind doesn’t actually help much! It is, however, entirely normal for a bad relationship and a bad break-up to change your emotional state for a while.
This may sound like pithy advice, but try doing things that make you happy. Hang out with your friends, watch or read funny things, listen to a favorite song, etc. Even if you don’t feel the emotions right away, keep trying. And be patient with yourself; no one heals overnight.
If it lasts long enough and gets debilitating, you might want to consider seeking professional care. But right now, it sounds like what you need to do is just be nice to yourself. Feel free to talk to us again if you have any other question!
Q:People who would never dream of telling a depressed person to cheer up, or a person with anxiety to relax, will still tell me my anger is something I can control, and that I should "know better" than to overreact. I often see people with anger management issues labeled as a bad person, and putting up with them in the way that many people would encourage supporting a depressed person is always labeled emotional abuse. Why are people with depression/anxiety sick, and I'm just a bad seed?
I’m sorry to hear you suffer from anger management issues. My tentative thought is that depression and anxiety are emotions, as is anger, but acting destructively due to anger is an action. If you cannot control your anger, that isn’t your fault. You can, however, choose to learn techniques that will let you channel that anger without hurting other people. If you can do that, there’s no reason you should be seen as a bad person!
Q:To those who think suicide is the only option, who think they will never be missed, think about everyone you have ever met, even those you haven't met. You touch peoples lives without knowing it. I have just one last thing to say to you, Robin Williams.
Wise words, anon. Thank you!
Q:Has anyone here ever taken Zyprexa? Can you honestly NEVER drink on antipsycotics?
I wouldn’t recommend it :/ they specify that you can’t drink on them for a reason…
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