Q:(possible tw: sexual abuse) basically ive never talked about this but i want to just get it out: but when i was 7/8, i was sleeping in my parents bed and i woke up in the middle of the night and they were having sex while i was still in the bed and i was so scared that it took me ages to even run away. and i feel like it has done alot of damage to me but idk if i'm being stupid and stuff and i guess i wanted to know if i am over reacting or what /: thanks so much and i love your blog xx
Friend, you are never never over reacting.
I’m not sure if you wanted a reply/instructions/suggestions but I will just get back to you right now to tell you, that we hear you.
If you feel its done you damage, is there anyone you can talk to? Therapists or counsellors?
You are most certainally not being stupid and additionally not over reacting.
Thank you for the blog compliments :3
Please remember all feelings are valid
Q:hello. i've been a follower for a fairly long time and tonight i'm feeling so rough and empty and i'm not sure what to do except feel awful because i hurt someone i love and i've been so selfish and i always do this. i'm not sure why i'm telling you this, but i guess i just want affirmation that i'm not completely alone.
You’re not alone and you never will be - thank you for reaching out to us my dear.
In my mind you should to soft fulfilling things that are easy and enjoyable, stream a whole series (adventure time or gargoyles would be my suggestion) . Talk to your furry friends, walk in good weather or wrap up warm and take a hike in the rain. Reach out to your friends or write letters filled with words you wish you’d said but cannot yet and then mail them, or burn them.
I’m sure whatever you have done is forgivable and in 5 years time no-one will even think on it.
Q:We love you kris hope you're ok xo
Thank you so much for writing in. :) I’m doing okay thank you. I’m just in the middle of changing medications and having a few issues with withdraw but otherwise I’m fine.
If you have left me a message I’ll get back to everyone as soon as I can.
I hope you have a wonderful day anon!
Q:Kris: I saw the post you reblogged about disliking Taylor Swift and I wanted to ask your opinion on something: The relationship between art as a personal form of expression and a cultural instrument. If we look at this from an individual level, art can be used to express feelings, even (or especially!) if those that are terrible, pitiful or unfair. If we assume that Taylor writes her own songs about personal experiences, maybe her songs express what touches her emotions most, which is love. -pt1
- pt2: It could be that Taylor uses music to deal with grief and other painful feelings. Maybe she is actually a decent human being, but she puts the ugly emotions she feels when she is at her lowest into music because she has to deal with them SOMEHOW, (right?) Let’s assume that Taylor knows how slut shaming is wrong, but sometimes she will feel so incredibly heartbroken and torn apart and jealous that she’s be mean and angry towards the “slut” - but only in music. What is your opinion on that?
I should clarify, I don’t dislike her- I dislike her music. To judge someone on what they have produced, without knowing what motivated it is silly.
I think you propose a very good point particular about art being a cultural instrument. Now here comes the problem as it is a cultural instrument she still actively “slut shames” in her music which I think is dangerous to all people. Anything the encourages bullying via emotional abuse is a dangerous thing.
The problem is that you don’t just choose recovery. You have to keep choosing recovery, over and over and over again. You have to make that choice 5-6 times each day. You have to make that choice even when you really don’t want to. It’s not a single choice, and it’s not easy.
If this sounds familiar:
“Many people believe that when they feel down or depressed they should try to focus inwardly and evaluate their feelings and their situation — they think this will help them gain insight and find solutions that might ultimately resolve their problems and relieve their depressive symptoms,” explains psychologist Sonja Lyubomirsky, PhD, professor in the department of psychology at the University of California in Riverside. […] “These studies have shown that repetitive rumination about the implications of one’s depressive symptoms actually maintains those symptoms, impairs one’s ability to solve problems, and ushers in a host of negative consequences,” says Lyubomirsky.
The article has a list of suggestions - but the most important one is to distract yourself. It can feel awfully like running away from facing your problems, and it can be pretty hard to do sometimes, but doing something that takes you outside of your head once you start recognizing what’s going on can help prevent it from getting worse.
Q:Hi kris haven't heard from you on the blog for a whole are you ok how are you feeling hug
Hey I just want to answer for Kris, she’s taking some time away but appreciates all the messages of support you guys send.
& from me, thank you all for being wonderful and supportive!
Q:Hi! So I recently was diagnosed (if that is the proper term) with general anxiety and depression. I love to write, and I've found that I feel really anxious every time I write something because I'm worried that no one will like it. I haven't written anything in a couple of months as a result. Do you have any advice? Thanks!
I’d say write with the intent to not show anyone else for a while, delve deep into your own indulgence, maybe share it anonymously with supportive people *cough cough*
Without the intent to share, it should take some pressure off!
if feel the same about something I do, and one angle is sharing it on stage but I can’t do that right now, so I’m going to practice backstage as long as I need!